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Too often, we find ourselves stuck in a sexual rut. Though we enjoy the comfort sex with a steady partner has to offer, it has the slight disadvantage of occasionally becoming a little boring. To remedy this, I suggest changing things up a bit. One great way to put some spice back in your sex life is by playing with positions.
If you are lacking a certain luster in the bedroom, here are some basic ideas for you to consider.
Break out of your comfort zone! If you’re typically the more passive partner, be more aggressive. It you’re usually on bottom, flip your partner over. Also, let your creativity and resourcefulness shine through in bed. If good old missionary isn’t doing it for you, try something a little wilder like reverse cowgirl or the starfish. It’ll be both highly stimulating and invigorating. (Should you find yourself in need of some positions a little more … adventurous, I recommend the book “Supersex” by Tracey Cox.)
Or, if you want to take a different route and experiment, try your favorite successful poses in different places around your room. The right atmosphere is vital to an engaging sex life. If you keep everything the same for too long, the spark that once set every nerve fiber aflame may start to dwindle.
Want to try out some new configurations but worried about the limitations of your dorm room? Never fear, Scarlett’s here! While your dorm furniture may seem a tad restrictive, there are still a multitude of ways for you to be creative.
A desk is an important vessel for studying and class preparation. So instead of doing homework, pick a night to clean off your desk and go at it on top. The Thorson/Rand model desk is great for traditional missionary and spooning positions, while the Larson/Mohn option requires a little more creativity.
One potential pose is having the shorter partner sit against the desk while the other stands for penetration. Another option has one partner leaning their weight on the desk while the other kneels in front of them for oral stimulation.
Every residence hall desk chair is made so that we can lean back in it without damaging the legs. This ingenious chair design makes for some quality “sit-up sex.” Not only can you achieve the satisfaction of that difficult angle with the aid of back and butt support, but because of the chair’s ability to rock back and forth, there is an added element of excitement in the unpredictability of when the chair will tilt. Just be careful not to rock the chair too fast or forcefully – otherwise your evening of pleasure may turn into a night of pain.
Lofted beds can be a real pain sometimes. Attempting to get two amorous people up there in a graceful and sensual way is virtually impossible. Instead, why not use that lofted bed to your advantage, put on some music and do a pole dance against the bedpost to heighten your partner’s arousal.
What’s especially nice about the construction of the lofted bed is the spacing of the horizontal boards we use as a ladder. They can be quite a convenient aid for having sex standing up if the two partners have a great variance in height. The shorter partner need only stand on one of the lower “steps” and brace themselves with the upper boards while the taller partner moves against them.
Should you find yourself wanting some extra zest to change up the routine, your local laundry room provides some unique opportunities. As you know, the dryer machines have a tendency to vibrate a lot as they dry clothes, which can make for an interesting sexual encounter. Just hop up there and enjoy the ride.
Be bold in your assertion of new poses. You overheard someone in the Caf talking about the success they had with a kinky position? Try it out! What matters most is hitting those pleasure points and enjoying the feel of your partner as you scintillate and excite one another.
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